Today I decided to try a little video chat to quickly share some nagging thoughts on the intersection of self-care and healthy reparenting. Western culture has a way of marketing and commodifying our most basic survival skills, leading us to believe we're deficient and therefore in need of a product or service that can clearly…Read more Redefining Self-Care
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The Trip of a Lifetime
I hate flying, all that turbulence and being strapped into a ride or die situation with no control over anything. Despite the screaming, shaking, seat kicking, neck spasming, ultimate discomfort of hurtling through space with nothing but jet fuel and some underpaid pilot attempting to defy the laws of gravity; I have this innate yearning…Read more The Trip of a Lifetime
Good Enough
I overthink, overfunction and generally try too hard which gives way to exhaustion and eventually giving up until something happens and starts the cycle all over again. It's gotten better after twenty years of recovery and healing work; better but not perfect. Perfection is static, life is all about movement which makes it messy. Peak…Read more Good Enough
Use Your Illusion
Back in the day I was known for my Axl Rose impressions. Girls would stop bullying me for at least a week before their slumber parties so I'd come with my red bandanna and entertain them. Apparently I have or at least had an appetite for self destruction. Thankfully, I'm not ten or codependent anymore.…Read more Use Your Illusion
The Resolution Diamond 101
Hey e, why are you making (crappy) YouTube videos? Cause I wanna start the revolution without leaving the house. Also, I plan on getting better at editing, talking and breathing but you gotta start somewhere. https://youtu.be/an62zWp_DBU What would you like to see the Diamond applied to in future videos? Don't wear fear or nobody will…Read more The Resolution Diamond 101
100 Seeds
What are we grateful for? Let us count the ways. Dear dishes, sorry, we didn't count you. I used to have my clients spend one group session making a list of 100 things they’re grateful for which at first felt impossible and they probably thought I was a sadist. Have you even been listening to…Read more 100 Seeds
Not Buying It
Healing from complex trauma while moving up the food chain is like running a marathon across a mountain range. No time for souvenir shopping or group sing-alongs. The third and fourth shift are waiting. Hurry up! There's a reason we're tired. Well intended self-help gurus ultimately hurt because they fail to address the blanket of…Read more Not Buying It
