This is not an invitation to ‘good vibes only’. Choosing to actively Love, as a verb, is the hardest work we, as spiritual beings attempting to have a human experience, will ever do.
Turning each other into verbal and physical punching bags through jokes, passive aggressive insults, degrading comparatives, volatile threats and reactive headlines is easy and accomplishes no peace. It’s also a survival mechanism we can grow past if we choose to.
Love requires us to humble ourselves to our own pain, to think, to use our capacity for consciousness, so we can recognize and respond rationally to the pain we see in each other.
Love is a choice we must consciously make, sometimes from one minute to the next. It is a muscle built through determination, commitment, grit and daily practice, fed by forgiveness, rest, reflection, self-examination, and informed, compassionate action. We have to fight (usually with ourselves) for the time it takes to practice Love.
When we choose Love, we become capable of dissolving the self-mindedness of ego; stubbornness, hate, pride, fear, denial and the violent reflexes of our wounded, primal brains, which only serve to perpetuate everything that continues to destroy us.
To Love is to engage our higher self, to do the often brutal work of self-regulation and personal accountability in spite of systemic obstacles, to stop making excuses for why we are not responsible for our selves and each other, to use our prefrontal cortexes and demonstrate our full potential as sentient beings. The human expression of Love is who we are all designed to be.
In other news, I slept like shit and woke up screaming. I witnessed a police-related fatality when I was three or four years old. I’ve written and deleted that sentence a dozen times. I want to say a lot more but this is the best I can do for now, aside from the entire book I wrote which explains everything. Like I said, choosing Love is not easy but it’s our greatest hope.
My beloved friends, let’s keep loving each other since God is Love and we are made in the image of Love. – 1 John 4-ish