Today I decided to try a little video chat to quickly share some nagging thoughts on the intersection of self-care and healthy reparenting.
Western culture has a way of marketing and commodifying our most basic survival skills, leading us to believe we’re deficient and therefore in need of a product or service that can clearly be linked to a catchphrase or hashtag. Hashtag mani-pedi. Hashtag scented candles. Hashtag spa day. Hashtag highlights. Hashtag self-care. If we aren’t doing one of those fancy things we’re likely to disqualify what we are doing every day to care for ourselves, like brushing our teeth, putting away the laundry and setting boundaries with the big, loud, bossy world.
Believing we’re not doing enough is the surest way to keep us stuck in a fruitless cycle of trying too hard, procrastinating and eventually giving up. We compare ourselves to the images, messages and people we see who tend to dominate dominant culture. What if we simply stopped buying what they’re selling and became the authorities of our own lives? What if we paired trauma-informed understanding with the 1, 2, 3’s of be-ing?
Hopefully, after watching my video you’ll have a whole new perspective on what it means to take care of you. Wild guess: you’re already doing enough.
Happy Sunday xo